Navigating the holiday season can be challenging for many people, especially for those of us trying to lose weight or manage their relationship with food. This year my coach gave me the option to continue with my cut over the holidays with a couple refeed days to allow for Christmas dinners, etc or maintenance for a week. After reflecting on where I am at and what I have ahead of me I have decided to do maintenance for a couple weeks because I recognized that I have been so focused on cutting that I have lost sight of the reality that I won’t always live in a “cut” and I need to establish a healthy relationship with life without “losing” weight. I also realized that this will likely be my last Christmas having a coach to help me navigate the holidays so I should take advantage of the extra support and test the waters on maintenance. As I get closer to my goal or desired weight that I want to learn to maintain it made sense to do this now which also gives me a bit of slack over the holidays as well. But as I prepare for this I need to establish a plan, as someone that has spent a lot of time working out my relationship with food and the impact of how habits can have an effect on my overall goal to find a stable weight, it requires a good plan and solid mindset going into the holidays.
A few things come to mind as I prepare, some easier than others…
- When out of town find a gym so I can keep up with my healthy habits.
- Going on maintenance is not a free for all to completely shit the bed with my eating, it provides.a few more calories but that is it.
- Be ok with the scale to go up a bit, that added carbs will impact the scale but doesn’t necessarily reflect a true gain.
- Habits will dictate my success, good or bad, only I can control that outcome.
- Be mindful of my emotions when attending larger social events, keep my plan and goals in check – anything in moderation.
- Continue to track and weigh all things consumed.
- If I do go over one day, then I will need to adjust the next few days to level out my total weekly average to be on point.
- No untracked snacking, nothing is free, even if it’s just a bite…Think about how many calories those bites accumulate to over a week…
Tips for me and others around me…
- Be careful if you feel like you want to tell me I am too skinny, you are opening the door for me to express my thoughts on your current weight situation. Coming from someone that has been told I am “fat” and “too skinny” neither feel good and come from a negative place. I often question what the intention of these statements are, does it make you feel better, because it makes me feel shitty.
- Don’t judge, I won’t judge your decisions, don’t judge mine.
- Compliments are welcomed if they are coming from a good place.
- When other’s tell me it won’t hurt “it’s just one” remember if it doesn’t fit it will eventually have a negative impact on my goals. Why does anyone care if I have too much or just enough??
- No one will or should remember our visit based on how much I ate or drank, I want to be remembered and want to remember the great conversations and memories created, not what I or others ate or drank.
- My goals are my goals, what are yours? Let’s focus on ourselves, not what other’s are doing.
- If you haven’t walked this path, you will never relate, so don’t try to. I will never understand yours either, that is what makes us unique, which is awesome.
- A day will come when I won’t need to “diet” but I will always be mindful of what I put in my body because I value my health so it’s best we all just accept that this is the “new” normal for me.
- I chose this way of living because I value my health and LOVE the way it makes me feel.
- Thank you for being happy for me.
There is a reason I share these “tips”, one is for me to reflect and prepare for some of it but it’s also in the hopes that other’s that haven’t walked this path have a better appreciation that we have have different relationships with various aspects in life. My hang up in the past is with food, I have done a ton of work on that relationship, as I continue to work on that relationship it is my hopes that others will either understand this better or for those on a similar path to know that they are not alone as they navigate the holidays.